Jason Wynkoop, Clinical Director of EDGE Learning and Wellness Collegiate Community in Chicago, spoke to Woodbury and co-host Liz McGhee on the Parent Choices for Struggling Teens radio show about the meaning of searching for real self-esteem for adolescents. The host of the L.A. Talk Radio show, Lon Woodbury, is an independent educational consultant who has worked with families and struggling teens since 1984. The show's co-host, Elizabeth McGhee, is the Director of Admissions and Referral Relations at Sandhill Child Development Center, with over 19 years' of clinical, consulting and referral relations experience. The show was sponsored by Father Flanagan's Boys Town in Nebraska.
About Jason Wynkoop
Jason Wynkoop has a master's in Social Work from the University of Chicago. He currently serves as the Clinical Director for EDGE Learning and Wellness Collegiate Community in Chicago. For more than 15 years, he has counseled kids, teenagers, grownups and families in educational and therapeutic organizations.
Why Seeking Real Self-esteem Is Often Misunderstood
Discussing the theme of searching for real self-Esteem, Jason briefly outlined where the concept of self-esteem went wrong, what erroneous cultural beliefs about over-praising tends to do to harm young people, and suggestions for building a more accurate self-concept.
He noticed that children commonly have an unreliable self-concept. Some overestimate what they can do; others minimize their talents. Sadly, lots of kids are never given the chance to create a practical self-concept due to the fact that parents and teachers have the tendency to unconditionally approve everything that they are doing. This practice actually "damages" their self-esteem. Consequently, when young people discover that they are not good at something, they tend to avoid getting involved with trying anything new. By not trying, they avoid the emotional discomfort of failing. Jason explained that the existing social fad of nurturing self-confidence prior to developing competency did not work well. It was considerably better for children to first hone skills prior before they chose to feel confident about their capabilities.
Self-esteem, Jason said, had to be earned through trial-and-error. When parents overprotected or lavished undeserved praise on their children, they were hurting, not helping them. Children tend to feel confused and upset children when real world experiences reveal their limitations. At EDGE Learning and Wellness Collegiate Community in Chicago, parents are advised how to guide their children in realistic way and students are taught to provide for themselves, take risks, enjoy their activities, and focus on developing their strengths. In the final analysis, searching for real self-esteem was based on realism, trial-and-error, and developing an accurate self-concept.
About Jason Wynkoop
Jason Wynkoop has a master's in Social Work from the University of Chicago. He currently serves as the Clinical Director for EDGE Learning and Wellness Collegiate Community in Chicago. For more than 15 years, he has counseled kids, teenagers, grownups and families in educational and therapeutic organizations.
Why Seeking Real Self-esteem Is Often Misunderstood
Discussing the theme of searching for real self-Esteem, Jason briefly outlined where the concept of self-esteem went wrong, what erroneous cultural beliefs about over-praising tends to do to harm young people, and suggestions for building a more accurate self-concept.
He noticed that children commonly have an unreliable self-concept. Some overestimate what they can do; others minimize their talents. Sadly, lots of kids are never given the chance to create a practical self-concept due to the fact that parents and teachers have the tendency to unconditionally approve everything that they are doing. This practice actually "damages" their self-esteem. Consequently, when young people discover that they are not good at something, they tend to avoid getting involved with trying anything new. By not trying, they avoid the emotional discomfort of failing. Jason explained that the existing social fad of nurturing self-confidence prior to developing competency did not work well. It was considerably better for children to first hone skills prior before they chose to feel confident about their capabilities.
Self-esteem, Jason said, had to be earned through trial-and-error. When parents overprotected or lavished undeserved praise on their children, they were hurting, not helping them. Children tend to feel confused and upset children when real world experiences reveal their limitations. At EDGE Learning and Wellness Collegiate Community in Chicago, parents are advised how to guide their children in realistic way and students are taught to provide for themselves, take risks, enjoy their activities, and focus on developing their strengths. In the final analysis, searching for real self-esteem was based on realism, trial-and-error, and developing an accurate self-concept.
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Find out more about Struggling Teens. Lon Woodbury has the recorded the entire interview on his L.A. Talk Radio show for people to listen to at any time.
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