Tuesday, 25 March 2014

3 Secrets That Will Force Your Ex To Call You Back

By Alexandra Peterson


Trying to get your ex to return your calls or pick up the phone might seem almost impossible since your breakup. You have tried leaving messages and calling when you know that they're free but you feel sure that your ex is avoiding you. What can you do to get your ex to call you back or pick up the phone?

While it's normal that you want to talk to your ex and work things out, there's a good chance that your ex is avoiding you because they don't want to talk about the breakup right now. You might say that you just want to hear their voice or check on them to see how they are. The sad fact is that it's almost impossible to get your ex to return your calls or pick up the phone when they know that you are only want to try to convince them to get back together. These tips will help you to get your ex to call you back though.

If you have been calling your ex a lot and leaving messages, you need to stop for a period of time. Your ex may be annoyed with all the phone calls and if you have been trying to convince your ex to talk about the breakup then they are going to avoid your calls completely. Nobody likes to talk about unpleasant things and although your ex made the decision to end your relationship, this is difficult for them also.

Usually a week or two of not calling your ex or trying to contact them through alternate routes will be necessary. The more you have been calling, the longer you should wait before you try getting in touch with your ex again. Waiting two weeks or more before trying to contact your ex again is a good rule of thumb but you can wait longer to improve your chances of getting a positive response from them.

Secondly, your life during this period where you're not going to contact your ex should be shrouded in mystery. If you ex has been checking up on you through mutual friends or if your ex is friends with your family, you don't want them to find out anything about you through them. You want your ex to get their information directly from the source. You want your ex to begin to wonder what happened to you and what's going on in your life. Don't let anyone know that you're sad about your breakup and avoid posting things to your social networking profiles that might make your ex think that you're still in love with them.

You can leverage your social networking profile by posting funny pictures that you find that improve your mood or optimistic songs that make you happy. If you find it difficult to resist the temptation to post songs that remind you of your ex or status updates that are sad or depressing then it's better to do nothing at all.

The final step in getting back in touch with your ex and getting them to pick up the phone is to start off small. Being with a text message before you try calling your ex again. Text messages have become almost a mandatory stepping stone that you must use before you call your ex for the first time after a breakup. The great thing about text messages is that your ex will have no idea of whether or not you're upset or sad. They is no way for your ex to know if you're out on the town having a good time or if you're curled up on the couch drowning in a puddle of your own tears.

You can start by sending a simple text message when the time is right saying that you were thinking of them or a piece of news that your ex might not know about. Avoid talking about the breakup or your desire to get back together. Short messages are better than long ones and you should try follow how often as well as how much your ex writes back. Take things slow and be careful not to appear needy. As the conversation progresses, you can tell your ex that you are tired of trying to type everything out and ask them to call you so you can tell them something funny that you heard. Be prepared and act cool and nonchalant and soon you'll have your ex wanting to talk to you again.

It can be frustrating to want to talk to your ex and to have them avoid your phone calls. You have lost your best friend in the world. Your ex was the person that you talked with when something wonderful happened as well as when something bad happened. Now you're alone without your best friend to talk about your feelings with.

By being patient and using what you have learned here, you can get back in touch with your ex. You will hear their voice again and you will be able to connect with your ex again. Any time you feel tempted to pick up that phone, remember that the longer you wait the better your chances are of reuniting with your ex. The longer you wait the happier your ex is going to be to hear your voice and connect with you again. You might even get lucky and have your ex call you before you're ready.




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