Have you ever listened to somebody define anxiety in just such a way that it changed it fully?
I'll never forget sitting in class and having my master coach say to everyone, "Now lots of things are about to change in your life, and this will bring up some anxiety, but just think of this anxiety as new things happening. "
Woah.
New things occuring? I haven't ever thought of it like that before. When we really get down to define anxiety in a very strict sense, it's a honest feeling of worry or uneasiness about a situation that has a pinch of fear surrounding it. What could actually happen next? What will the outcome be? In a way, anxiety is an amazing indicator of forward thinking or "row boat thinking," a phrase I have just lately coined.
What is the thought behind "row boat thinking?"
Each of us are fed a fascinating story all thoughout our lives that sounds a lot like this..."I'll be happy when this occurs. It will all turn out when I arrive there. " The difficulty is, we are rowing toward this island that does not exist. We think it's there, but it's one of the most beautifully made mirages we have ever seen. It's really sexy. It's beguiling. It's just enough to keep us grasping and thirsting for more. But there's serious danger in this kind of thinking meanging that anxiousness can be our honest indicator that we are actually caught in the act of doing it in the first place.
Living in the future can have as many negative complications as living in the past. Everyone knows what it is actually like to desire to run from our past, but I'm going to hang out on a limb to hazard to say that we absolutely must avoid living in the future just as much. We can get stuck in some place, an especially uncertain place, that frankly is beyond control. Should you set goals and have a dream for what you desire out of your life? Definitely. But the danger is building the basis of your happiness on such a place.
The one guarantee I'm able to make you about this life is that it will change. You cannot go to the past, the present is subject to being changed at any moment and the future is to be decided.
So what are we able to do?
That uncertainty...love it. Embrace the hell out of it. The unsure places in your life are opportunities to have nothing short than magic happen. Do you really know what is going to happen? Of course not. Will you attempt to project as much as practicable? Yes, we've all done that haven't we? But when you start returning to the present moment, over and over again because our minds never stop getting distracted, you get to completely be here. Here truly is a great spot to be. Start actually seeing what is happening around you rather than spending so much time distracting yourself from everything that's not in this moment.
So all nervousness really is, when it comes down to it, is new things taking place. Enjoy that feeling and sit with it. Basically spend a little bit of time to really feel the anxiety in your belly and then take a minute to start to appreciate why it's coming up. "In this moment, what is the thing that's taking place at this time that's new?" When you attempt to do that, well, things become more fun. But when you stop living in the future , the anxiousness starts to vanish altogether.
It's all about how we define anxiety in the first instance.
I'll never forget sitting in class and having my master coach say to everyone, "Now lots of things are about to change in your life, and this will bring up some anxiety, but just think of this anxiety as new things happening. "
Woah.
New things occuring? I haven't ever thought of it like that before. When we really get down to define anxiety in a very strict sense, it's a honest feeling of worry or uneasiness about a situation that has a pinch of fear surrounding it. What could actually happen next? What will the outcome be? In a way, anxiety is an amazing indicator of forward thinking or "row boat thinking," a phrase I have just lately coined.
What is the thought behind "row boat thinking?"
Each of us are fed a fascinating story all thoughout our lives that sounds a lot like this..."I'll be happy when this occurs. It will all turn out when I arrive there. " The difficulty is, we are rowing toward this island that does not exist. We think it's there, but it's one of the most beautifully made mirages we have ever seen. It's really sexy. It's beguiling. It's just enough to keep us grasping and thirsting for more. But there's serious danger in this kind of thinking meanging that anxiousness can be our honest indicator that we are actually caught in the act of doing it in the first place.
Living in the future can have as many negative complications as living in the past. Everyone knows what it is actually like to desire to run from our past, but I'm going to hang out on a limb to hazard to say that we absolutely must avoid living in the future just as much. We can get stuck in some place, an especially uncertain place, that frankly is beyond control. Should you set goals and have a dream for what you desire out of your life? Definitely. But the danger is building the basis of your happiness on such a place.
The one guarantee I'm able to make you about this life is that it will change. You cannot go to the past, the present is subject to being changed at any moment and the future is to be decided.
So what are we able to do?
That uncertainty...love it. Embrace the hell out of it. The unsure places in your life are opportunities to have nothing short than magic happen. Do you really know what is going to happen? Of course not. Will you attempt to project as much as practicable? Yes, we've all done that haven't we? But when you start returning to the present moment, over and over again because our minds never stop getting distracted, you get to completely be here. Here truly is a great spot to be. Start actually seeing what is happening around you rather than spending so much time distracting yourself from everything that's not in this moment.
So all nervousness really is, when it comes down to it, is new things taking place. Enjoy that feeling and sit with it. Basically spend a little bit of time to really feel the anxiety in your belly and then take a minute to start to appreciate why it's coming up. "In this moment, what is the thing that's taking place at this time that's new?" When you attempt to do that, well, things become more fun. But when you stop living in the future , the anxiousness starts to vanish altogether.
It's all about how we define anxiety in the first instance.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author and creator of The Words Of Encouragement a website dedicated to bringing encouraging words to all those who are in need of some help, whether that ranges from helping people define anxiety to providing them with strong powerful quotes about life so they can continue to chase their dreams.
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